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41590 Fenwick Street
P.O. Box 270
Leonardtown, MD 20650
Phone: (301) 475-8500
Fax: (301) 475-8909
Joseph Vallandingham, Jr.

Joseph Wilbur Vallandingham, Jr.

Monday, October 21st, 1957 - Monday, April 5th, 2021
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Joseph Wilbur “Mr. Joe” Vallandingham, Jr passed away on April 5, 2021 at his home with his loving family and caregivers by his side. Joe was born October 21, 1957 in Leonardtown, MD to Joseph Wilbur Vallandingham, Sr. and Mary Moonyeen (Graves) Vallandingham.

He was a 1975 graduate of Ryken High School in Leonardtown, MD. After graduation he attended Charles County Community College for a business degree.

Joe married his longtime love of his life, Sara Teresa (Tere) Downs in October 1979. Together they produced three wonderful children, Katie, Bobby and David. Joe was a caring husband, father, son, brother, uncle, grandfather and friend who loved his family above all else. He had a heart of gold and was always available to help anyone with a problem or a dilemma. He was a problem solver and always landed on his feet.

Joe was an advisor, counselor, business man and teacher. His farming interest started at age 4. At age 6 he was driving Oliver tractors proficiently. He has advised and mentored many of his farming colleagues over the years. His farming management and practices have been a model for many of his peers. He was a true steward of the land, growing such beautiful crops with the best yields. He always strived to be the best and could always figure out what his crops needed despite the adversities of weather.

In his later years he became involved in local politics. New laws and regulations regarding land use, nutrient management, oyster cages, etc. sparked his interest. He told his family that we needed to become more involved and be aware of what is going on in our county by attending local meetings. Joe endorsed several political candidates he felt had the best interests of the county. These candidates respected him for his common-sense input and later became great friends of his.

Along with his wife, Sara (Tere) of Clements, MD, he is survived by his children Katie Marie Sanchez (Steve), Joseph Robert (Bobby) Vallandingham, (Susan) and David Andrew Vallandingham (Christina) of Leonardtown, MD. He has 8 grandchildren, Lillian Sanchez, Helen Sanchez, Trent Vallandingham, Delia Vallandingham, Levi Vallandingham, Colby Vallandingham, Ryleigh Vallandingham, and Rebecca Vallandingham. He is survived by his mother, Mary Moonyeen Vallandingham, whom he just adored and made sure she never needed for anything. He is survived by his siblings Dana Marie Russell (Willie), William Earl Vallandingham, Mary Lisa Estevez (Steve) and Mark Allshouse (Janie). He is survived by his niece and nephews Sarah Johnson (Kyle), William Patrick Russell (Jenn), Christopher Paul Russell (Shelley), William Daniel Estevez, Brian Allshouse and Kevin Allshouse. He especially loved his great nephew, Bailey Johnson, whom he wished he had more time to teach him so many things about farming. He was preceded in death by his father, Joseph Wilbur Vallandingham, Sr, his sister Wanda Farrell and her husband Joe Farrell.

Joe leaves behind so many amazing friends. These friends called, visited, and supported Joe and his family throughout his illness. His caregivers, the Baker family, learned to love him like family and he appreciated Erica, Beverly, and Agnes for all the compassionate care they provided. You can judge how a great a person he was by the many friends in his circle of life. We thank all of these friends for everything.

Joe leaves us with an amazing legacy which will be carried on for future generations. Vallandingham Farms is strong and enduring thanks to Joe Vallandingham’s vision, strength, leadership and business style.

The family will receive friends on Tuesday, April 13, 2021 from 9:00 AM to 10:00 AM in the Mattingley-Gardiner Funeral Home Leonardtown, MD. A Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated at 11:00 AM in Our Lady of the Wayside Catholic Church Chaptico, MD with Father Chip Luckett officiating. Interment will follow at Queen of Peace Catholic Cemetery Helen, MD. Serving as pallbearers will be Patrick Russell, Chris Russell, Bailey Johnson, Daniel Estevez, Brian Allshouse, and Ira Mosely. Honorary pallbearers are Rich McCoy, Charlie Wallace, Steven Russell, Robin Russell, Dale Vallandingham, Mike Granados, David Thompson and Aaron Mattingly.
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  • Visitation

    Tuesday, April 13th, 2021 | 9:00am - 10:00am
    Tuesday, April 13th, 2021 9:00am - 10:00am
    Mattingley-Gardiner Funeral Home
    41590 Fenwick Street
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  • Service

    Tuesday, April 13th, 2021 | 11:00am
    Tuesday, April 13th, 2021 11:00am
    Our Lady of the Wayside
    37575 Chaptico Road
    CHAPTICO, MD 20621
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    Father Chip Luckett
  • Interment

    Queen of Peace Catholic Cemetery
    Helen, Maryland , MD 20635
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Billy Johnson

Posted at 01:18pm
We are so sorry to hear of Joey's passing. He was a good man and good friend. Sorry we missed the services. Our prayers are with you all in this time of sadness. Just trust that he is with our Lord and turn to Jesus for comfort.
Billy and Susan Johnson

Bonnie and Randy Oliver

Posted at 07:23am
The Vallandingham Family, our deepest and most sincere condolences go out to each and every one of you. What a wonderful soul this world has lost and heaven has gained. Joey was such a devoted and dedicated family and friend man! We were blessed to be able to call him both; family and friend. Oh, how Joey will be missed by all. Fields won’t look the same without seeing him on the farm equipment, snow days won’t be the same without seeing him coming down our driveway ready to plow and well, life just won’t be the same without just having his presence all around! May he Rest In Peace and keep an eye on Sunnyside and Pin Cushion Roads. Many prayers and love to all, Bonnie and Randy Oliver.

Jason Thompson

Posted at 04:10pm
Any time I think of Joey, I'll always associate him with hard work, character, strong constitution and, of course, family. He was one of the most genuine, authentic people I've ever known. He has always been there for family, even extended family. As a kid, I remember him driving through the snow-covered back roads of Pin Cushion to plow our driveways. You could set your clock to it. No one asked him to. He just did it. I remember him pulling my vehicles out of the mud or getting me out of a jam when I was a teenager. haaaa...He'd laugh and we'd share some stories. We'd talk about family and my grandmother. He'd share a lesson or two. He always greeted me with pleasant compliments, warmth and kindness. He and his family always went out of their way to make you feel welcomed. I will never ever forget him. Here's to Joey; a man's man, a family man, and a very special human being. Thanks for everything, Joey.

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Rest In Peace Uncle Joey, we will miss you so much! Love, Brian and Gabby
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