Ruth Elizabeth "Ruthie" Chedester
July 5, 1955 ~ November 25, 2015
Ruth “Ruthie” Elizabeth (Alvey) Chedester passed away at St. Mary’s Hospital in Leonardtown, MD on 25 November 2015 surrounded by her loving family. She was born on 5 July 1955 to John Aloysius Alvey, Sr. and Ruth Elizabeth (Curry) Alvey. Ruthie graduated from Chopticon High School in 1972. She is survived by her beloved husband Tommy Ray Chedester whom she married on 12 May 1990. They just celebrated their 25th Wedding Anniversary. Ruthie is also survived by her siblings John A. Alvey, Jr. and his wife Maxine of Port Tobacco, MD, Lorraine M. Alderman of Hollywood, MD and James “Jimmy” Alvey and his companion Elaine Macmillan of Myrtle Beach, SC. She was the very loving and supporting Aunt to Debbie and Michelle Alvey, Sharon Alderman Johnson and William “Billy” Alderman and his wife Alice, Shawn Alvey, Jade Alvey and the late Tonya Garner. She was especially proud of her great nieces and nephews Jessica Alderman Cusic and her husband John, Rebecca and Nathan Johnson, and Jackson and Zachary Alderman.
Ruthie was a lifelong resident of St. Mary’s County and spent the last several years of her life as a daycare provider. Although Ruthie had no biological children, she was the second mother to so many. Her love of children and compassion for caring for them was one of her most impressive traits. Her responsibilities for caring for “her daycare kids” went far beyond the daycare hours she cared for them. She loved all of them as they were her own and it was evident in her relationships with them. Most of the children she cared for from infants until they were teenagers. She would attend their sporting events, concerts, etc. whenever she was able to. She went above and beyond her duties as their provider and continued to be involved their lives long after they grew up. She left lasting impressions on them with her love, arts and craft projects, structure and her endearing soul. She was also very active in the Daycare Association performing duties of many positions including Daycare President. She worked extremely hard and was very active in that organization.
Her family was very important to her and she spent as much time as she could with them. She was always the one planning holiday get together’s, impromptu dinners, “girls days out” and shopping trips. Her relationship with her sister, Lorraine was so very strong and they spent most of their time together. She was so very involved in her nieces and nephews lives, always ensuring she attended as many events in their lives as she could. She was a huge support to all of them with her time, advice, fun outings and family game nights.
Ruthie spent her life always lending a helping hand to anyone she met and would go out of her way to assist anyone in any way. Her loving and caring soul left an impression on so many and it was very important to her to always make people feel special and loved. She had many lifelong friends because of her caring nature. Her sense of humor, fun demeanor, love of life and caring soul will be a legacy that will live forever.
Ruthie and husband Tommy Ray were involved in many groups during their marriage, and met an incredible amount of friends that they call family. Her relationships with those people carried on long after their involvement in those groups.
The family will receive friends on Monday, November 30, 2015 from 5:00 PM – 8:00 PM with prayers recited at 7:00 PM in the Mattingley-Gardiner Funeral Home Leonardtown, MD. A Funeral Service will be held on Tuesday, December 1, 2015 at 10:00 AM in the funeral home chapel with Father Raymond Schmidt officiating. Interment following at St. John’s Catholic Cemetery, Hollywood, MD. Pallbearers will be: William “Billy” Alderman, Shawn Alvey, John Cusic, Jackson Alderman, Wade Johnson, and Kyle Wood. Honorary Pallbearers will be: Jessica Cusic, Rebecca Johnson, Nate Johnson, Zachary Alderman, Jade Alvey, and Sharon Johnson.
In lieu of flowers, the family has named Hollywood Vol. Rescue Squad P.O. Box 79 Hollywood, MD 20636 for donations in Ruthie’s name.





Our thoughts and prayers to you and Ruthy. We will always be thankful for your support and friendship that started when we arrived to Southern Maryland and our children are better for the time spent with Ruthy. Just two of several children that have fond memories of Ruthy.
Ruthie,
You will be missed in life, but remain forever in our hearts.
Love from your older children, Lloyd & Alicia.
My thoughts and prayers are with Ruthie’s family during this time of sorrow. I remember Ruthie as a fun and outgoing student at Chopticon and shared many good laughs with her. She will be sorely missed by many folks in St. Mary’s County.
To a special and close friend, u will be missed by our whole family. The fun we had on the motorcycle trips to N.J. PS: We’ll keep a eye on TommyRay!
Tommy Ray
So sorry for your loss thoughts and prayers are with you
Tommy, Lorraine, Johnny and Jimmy, Nieces and Nephews: Our heart goes out to all of you. When I received the call from J0 about Ruthie, I was shocked like you all were. You all are in our thoughts and prayers. Ruthie will be truly missed
So sorry to hear about Ruth. Our cousin on her Fathers side of the family and I will miss her. Had some good laughs as we played bingo together and shared some family tidbits.. My sincere condolences and prayers are with you all. God Bless.
Tommy Ray, we were so sadden to learn about Ms. Ruthie passing. Words will never express how wonderful of a person that she was and how her loving and giving nature touched many individuals, especially our daughter Cassie. Our thoughts and prayers are with you, may you rest in knowing that Ms. Ruthie is in the arms of our Lord and she will live in our hearts forever.
You will greatly misses by your family,your many day care children and there parenets,and all the volunteer groups that you and Tommy Ray worked with.
Rest in peace Ruthy
Tommy Ray and Family, So sad and sorry to hear of your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. She will always live on in your heart and your memories.
This poem represents Ruthie.
Forever In My Heart
Although I’m not their mother
I care for them each day,
I cuddle, sing and read to them
And watch them as they play.
I see each new accomplishment,
I help them grow and learn.
I understand their language,
I listen with concern.
They come to me for comfort,
And I kiss away their tears.
They proudly show their work to me,
I give the loudest cheers!
No, I ‘m not their mother,
But my role is just as strong.
I nurture them and keep them safe,
Though maybe not for long.
I know someday the time will come,
When we will have to part.
But I know each child I cared for,
Is forever in my heart!
~ Author Unknown ~
Thank you Ruthie for all you have done for my family.
Dear Miss Ruthie,
I am small and it’s hard to stay clean.
Sometimes I leave fingerprints in places I don’t mean.
My fingerprints are found everywhere –
on your windows, your walls, your tables and highchair.
I know you wiped most away
but some fingerprints are meant to stay.
The fingerprints you’ve left on me
are anchored in love and coated with security.
You’ve taught me so much and been there each day.
You’ve encouraged me and lightened my way.
You’ve left traces of love and helped me to grow.
You’ve soothed my boo-boos and cured my woe.
Though your days were often long and your patience overstretched,
know that on me your fingerprints are permanently etched!
Author – Unknown
You will be forever in our hearts Ruthie.
Tommy Ray, deepest sympathies to you & your family. May fond memories help heal the heartache left behind and know you’ll always have an angel looking out for you.
I knew Ruthie from the child care community. She was such a joy to be around and I have such fond memories. I hope your good memories will help during this very difficult time. She won’t be forgotten.
God Bless, Linda
Tommy Ray we are very sorry for Ruthie’s passing. I know words will not heal the pain you are going through…. But please know that we are praying for you all and hope you find strength in all the wonderful memories you have. Ruthie was definitely a wonderful person and touched many hearts.
condolence from Susie Howe Russell
Ruthies Family
I am so sorry to hear of Ruthie passing.She was my forever friend . she was a wonderful person .
I hope holding the memories of her will help you during these sorrowful times.Iam glad she had a wonderful husband and family to make her happy.Rest in peace my friend i will miss you
condolence from Susie Howe
I will always love, cherish and hold on tight to all the memories I have with Ms Ruthie. I am forever grateful to have had her as a provider, role model, second mom and so much more. She will never be forgotten. My thoughts and prayers are with all of her family/loved ones during this tough time. Xoxo
So sorry to learn of Ruthie’s passing. She was so sweet and kind, she will be missed by so many. Our prayers and sympathy to her family.
Jimmy and family, please accept my deepest sympathy on your loss.
So sorry to hear of your loss. She touched so many lives in such a positive way with her childcare. Hold your memories close.