Thomas Frederick "Tommy" Gray
May 31, 1934 ~ January 14, 2021
Thomas Frederick “Tommy” Gray, 86, of Hollywood, MD, passed away peacefully on January 14, 2021, at his home with his loving family by his side.
Tommy was born in Chaptico, MD, on May 31, 1934, to Frederick Carroll “Freddie” and Mary Elizabeth Anderson Gray. He was Freddie and Mary’s first-born child and grew up working on the farm. Tommy married his sweetheart, Agnes Patricia “Pat” Hall Gray, on June 26,1954. Together they celebrated 66 years of marriage, had five children, and built a foundation of love and faith on which their family has grown.
After graduating from St. Mary’s Academy in Leonardtown, MD, in 1952, Tommy was on the road the majority of his life. His favorite motto was to Keep on Truckin’. Tommy drove a truck for Southern MD Transportation for several years, traveling to and from Baltimore making deliveries daily. In 1989, he bought the company and turned it into Government Contract Services (GCS). As owner of GCS, Tommy provided logistical support to the U.S. Government which included hauling secret and classified material. The best part of Tommy’s business was that his devoted wife and two sons worked alongside him until his retirement in 2014.
Tommy enjoyed playing pitch and catching the jack with a big thump on the table (like father like son!) He was a great card player and also loved playing the slot machines, especially at Horseshoe and Dover Downs. Often times after delivering a GCS shipment to the Dover Air Force Base, he would swing by Dover Downs just to try his luck.
Tommy was quite the rascal and his jokes would have even the best blushing. He was quick-witted and ALWAYS smiling, which he said made others wonder what he was up to next. Tommy had an infectious, likeable, and easy-going personality. Every stranger was a friend, and because of his honesty and personality, many of his GCS customers became lasting friends of the family.
As a husband, Tommy was very attentive and doted on his beloved wife, Pat. He could not do enough to help her out around the house and was sad when he could no longer do all that he wanted to make her comfortable. Every morning, they would sit with their coffee and say their prayers together. Every night, he would say to her "Good night darling. I love you darling. Sweet dreams darling. Dream about me darling." Pat was the love and light of his life. Their faith in our Lord and in each other was truly a blessing to witness.
Tommy loved all of his family “so very very much”, and you could not visit him often enough. Although he was a jokester, his children and other family members could always count on him for the best advice. He was a wonderful father who gifted his children with unconditional love. He would call them everyday just to hear their voices and see how they were doing; he always wanted to be present in their lives. His children knew his love was a guarantee and that he would always welcome them with loving and open arms.
As a grandfather, Tommy embraced all of his grandchildren with everlasting love, respect, and kindness. He wouldn’t let a day go by without reminding them just how much he loved and cared about them. Tommy’s grandchildren knew that whenever they walked onto his front porch, they would be greeted with a big ole’ smile, followed by a hug and a kiss. His face would light up whenever he saw any of his grandchildren, no matter the occasion. Tommy made sure their lives were filled with endless memories of love and laughter. His love was one of the purest and sweetest kinds, leaving an unmistakable mark on all of their hearts forever.
He is survived by his loving wife, Pat, and five children Patricia Anne “Patti” Johnson (Kenny); John Bernard “Johnny” Gray (Sally) both of Hollywood, MD; Michael Anthony “Tony” Gray (Donna) of Mechanicsville, MD; Mary Susan “Susie” Norris (Ricky) of Hollywood, MD; Catherine Marie “Cathy” Propst (Brian) of Glen Burnie, MD, and a special granddaughter/caregiver Christina Leigh “Christi” Johnson Sabol (Bill) of Dundalk, MD. He is also survived by his brothers William Bernard “Bunny” Gray (Joyce) of Citrus Heights, CA; Charles Patrick “Charlie” Gray (Wilma) of O’Fallon, MO; Robert “David” Gray (Mary) of Hollywood, MD; Ralph Thelbert Gray (PeeWee) of Mechanicsville, MD; sister-in-law Peggy Berry; 14 grandchildren; 17 great-grandchildren; 2 great-great-grandchildren, and numerous nieces, nephews, and friends all who love him very much. He was predeceased by his parents, his brother James Anthony “Jimmy” Gray, and sister, Mary “Rosalie” Carpenter.
The family will receive friends on Wednesday, January 20, 2021, from 5:00 to 8:00 p.m. with prayers recited at 7:00 p.m. in the Mattingley-Gardiner Funeral Home, Leonardtown, MD. A Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated on Thursday, January 21, 2021, at 10:00 a.m. in St. John’s Catholic Church, Hollywood, MD, with Father Ray Schmidt officiating and Deacon Ammon Ripple and Father Eamon Dignan (Ret.) co-officiating. Interment will follow in the church cemetery. Serving as pallbearers will be Brian Propst, Jr., Thomas Gray, Jimmy Gray, Pat Clarke, Ralph Gray, Jr., and Scott Gray. Honorary pallbearers will be Glenn Hall, Brandon Propst, and his precious grandchildren.
The family would like to express our sincerest gratitude for the outpouring of love, support, and prayers on Tommy’s passing. Until we meet again…
Memorial Contributions may be made to Hospice of St. Mary’s, P.O. Box 625, Leonardtown, MD 20650 and St. John Francis Regis Catholic Church, 43950 St. John’s Road, Hollywood, MD 20636.





Pat,
So sorry to hear about your beloved Tommy.
May he rest in peace.
Where do we begin? So many memories of lots of vacations with our family and yours. Our kids still think of them and especially when Beezie and Lucille were with us. We are so sadden to know that Tommy is no longer with us but are comfortable to know that he could not get well and is no longer suffering. Pat and family we are hear for you and we mean that sincerely so do not hesitate to ask if there anything that we can do for you during this difficult and sad time. Tommy was a good man, good husband, good father and granddad who had so many friends and will be missed by many.
Patsy, I am so sorry for your loss. I know that Tommy has been suffering for a long time. it is so hard to go through that, for both the husband and the wife. May both of you have peace now.
Pat, Patti and family, I remember being in Stella and Sam’s basement eating oysters and having a good old time. Tommy’s smile is the first thing I see when I think of Tommy. He was truly a treasure. My you have comfort in knowing he was loved by many. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
Pat, Johnny and Tony, So sorry to hear of Tommy’s passing . He was always a ray of Sunshine with the Brightest smile. May he rest in Eternal Peace . Only a phone call away if we can do anything. David and Cyndi
Dear Pat and Family
Our most sincere condolence on your great loss. Mr Gray had an infectious smile that always greeted you anytime you saw him. We will surely miss that smile and his gentle touch as he gave when you passed him in church. May God give you peace and help you through this sad time and may He give Mr. Gray eternal rest. God bless you all.
Love
Wayne and Joan Thompson
May you find peace and love in all the memories you cherish. His smiles, hugs and cheek kisses will be missed. God Bless you Pat and family.
Dear Pat and family, So very sorry to hear that Tommy is no longer here with us. His smile could brighten up your worse day. God bless you all. You are in our thoughts and prayers.
Shirley & Eddie Quade
So very sorry to hear that Tommy Passing RIP”’
I’m so deeply sorry for your loss. Mr. Gray was such a kind and warm person. Many of my happy childhood memories were at your house. My deepest condolences and prayers.
My sincere condolences to Patti, Mary and all of your family. My thoughts and prayers are with you all at this most difficult time.
Aunt Pat and all the family, so sorry for your loss. Uncle Tommy’s big smile will be missed by many.
AUNT PAT & FAMILY & FRIENDS
Our thoughts & prayers are with everyone today. The loss of Uncle Tommy was a very gentle loving soul.
Keep his MEMORIES ALIVE!! Remember when all the “GOOD TIMES” last a lifetime!! May God Bless You all in his loss. Thinking of everyone today.
LOVE ALWAYS Your Niece ELAINE&JOE COPSEY/Chestertown
Pat and family, So sorry for your loss. Thoughts and prayer for all.
Sending prayers and healing hugs to the entire Gray family. I have wonderful memories of Mr. Gray during the time I spent at the Gray residence many years ago.
I am so sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers. I will miss going to uncle Tommy for a big squeezy hug and a laugh.
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Mr. Gray will be missed by many.