Catherine Ann "Kitty" Waring Barnes

catherine waring barnes

October 24, 1924 ~ February 7, 2018

Catherine Ann Waring Barnes, known all her life as Kitty, passed away peacefully on February 7, 2018. Born in Chicago, Kitty and her family returned to Southampton, the Waring family farm in Chaptico, during the Great Depression. A full teaching scholarship enabled her to attend Western Maryland College (now, McDaniel College) where she graduated with a double major in English and sociology and was named “the most outstanding female graduating senior”. As World War II ended, she returned home to Chaptico and began teaching high school at Margaret Brent when only 21 years old. All through the years, her students continued to thank her for her teaching and her personal support. A chance re-acquaintance began Kitty’s 55-year love affair with George Barnes. They married in 1948 and Kitty joined the multi-generational family at Piney Point Farm. She and George had an amazing and wonderful partnership, cherishing each other in all aspects of their life together. Both Kitty and George were leaders in church, community and civic affairs. In consecutive appointments by two Maryland governors, Kitty served on the St. Mary’s County Board of Education for ten years, eight as president. A founder and co-chair of the Potomac River Association, she provided the leadership and vision essential to prevent the building of an oil refinery and fracking plant in Piney Point, beating back the oil company in three separate, successful county-wide referenda. Her environmental activism protected the entire county’s ground water supply and kept the Piney Point/Tall Timbers peninsula from being developed by heavy industry. Kitty was a founding member of the St. Mary’s City Citizens Coalition, a watchdog group providing critical oversight of the St. Mary’s City Commission. For sixty years, Kitty and George were deeply involved at Saint George’s Episcopal Church in Valley Lee, providing continuous leadership on the Vestry, in the choir, on the Altar Guild, for church dinners, and on many, many committees. They were active members of the St. Mary’s County Historical Society. Their leadership for the Second District Volunteer Fire Department spanned fundraising, running the Bingo hall at the annual carnivals, and thoroughly enjoying the dance floor. Kitty organized and supervised the care of many elderly Saint Mary’s County residents. Both she and George were mentors to numerous young people, who still express their appreciation for all the help and guidance they received. In her years as a social worker, she was instrumental in bringing social work to the county public schools. She also occasionally drove the family school buses and is still known for her Eagle Eyes that could see any mischief happening behind her! Kitty is survived by her children, Ann Barnes (Columbia, MD), Janet Barnes (James King) of St. Leonard, MD), George Barnes (Pamela) of Harwood, MD; three beloved grandchildren – Catherine, Walter, and Zoe; Robert, Susan and Marshall Cornelius who are embraced as family; her brother Thomas Waring (Leonardtown, MD) and his family; her sister-in-law Nelly Key Thompson (Newport News, VA) and multiple generations of godchildren, nieces, and nephews. Visitation will be at Mattingly Funeral Home (Leonardtown) on Friday, February 16, 2018 from 5:00pm – 8:00pm, with prayers at 7:00pm. The burial service and internment of ashes will be on Saturday, February 17, 2018 at 11:00am at St. George’s Episcopal Church in Valley Lee. In lieu of flowers, the family asks that you consider a donation to St. George’s Episcopal Church (Valley Lee), the Second District Volunteer Fire Department and Rescue Squad (Valley Lee), Calvert Hospice (calverthospice.org), or to an organization of your choosing.

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  1. My dear Janet,
    I am so very sorry that your mother has passed. You are in my thoughts and prayers. My mother passed in 1992, and I still miss her. However, every time I see a red cardinal, or a dragaonfly, or a butterfly, I feel her love.
    Love you, Janet.
    Hugs,
    Joan

  2. To the family of Ms. Barnes,
    Our heartfelt sympathies. Peace be with you.

    from the Cherry Cove Group

  3. Condolences to the family.
    Loved Miss Kitty! She always was so kind and friendly, asking how my girls were. I will miss here dearly.

  4. Dear Janet and family: As you all know, Kitty was a Life Member of the St. Mary’s County Historical Society and we will truly miss her. Our Board of Directors, staff, volunteers and members send you all our love.

  5. Condolences to your family. One may think we will all be forced to confront death sooner or later. Its painful sting has caused many people to search for answers. Why did Jesus compare death to sleep? What can we learn from resurrections recorded in the Bible? Does death end it all? Acts 24:15 says there will be a resurrection of the righteous and unrighteous. Can you imagine the joy of Martha and Mary when Jesus raised Lazarus back to life?—Read John 11:21-24, 38-44. Revelation 21:3,4 promises that one day death, mourning, and outcry will be no more.

  6. crystal (graves) laschalt says:

    so heart broken to hear of Kitty’s passing. an amazing caring lady who gave so much of herself. Godspeed Mrs. Barnes I know George was waiting for you at Heaven’s gate. my deepest condolences to Ann, George, Janet and families. God bless you all through this difficult time.

  7. To the family of Mrs. Barnes,
    Sorry to hear of Kitty’s passing. May God bring peace and comfort to the Barnes family.
    Joan and Steve Simko

  8. Katie & Tom Wattts says:

    To the Family of Kitty Barnes,

    In reading this obituary of Kitty, I am wishing I had known her better. I feel that she and my mother, Kay Daugherty, were of a similar soul. Both taught school in St. Mary’s and were passionate about saving our environment. Both were deeply involved in their church and helping others. I’m sure their paths must have crossed. Plus, they both loved to dance! Lives well lived. I feel my mother’s presence often; I know you will, too. Love never dies. I’m so happy that you shared your life with Kitty.

    Sincerely,
    Katie Watts

  9. Kitty loved her family, her church and her community. She was a champion for public education. She always had a kind word. Our thoughts are with Ann, Janet, relatives and Kitty’s many friends. We wish you peace.

  10. Maureen and Jason Ploen says:

    Thoughts and prayers to our friends George and Pam Barnes and to all of the Barnes family and friends.

  11. My heartfelt thoughts go out to Kitty (and George’s) family. I was so very surprised to hear of her passing.

    She and George were dear friends to Paul and I. We will always cherish their visit to Neptune Beach, FL in April 2000 (see the photos in the Memories).

    With endless energy and capacity to love, Kitty was an amazing woman truly ahead of her time. An inspiration to myself and so many others, she will be greatly missed. I know George is smiling to have her sharing his heavenly home now.

    May the family take comfort in knowing that her kind and generous soul changed the world of so many.

    In celebration of Kitty’s life – we toast her!

    Denise Buczek and Paul Blanchard


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